The plans for Mom's funeral are set and we are all sent an email. I read it. I re-read it. Something inside me begins to bubble up in reaction. The viewing, service, and interment will all take place on Saturday in the span of a few hours. Wait a minute! It took us 4 days to bury Dad. What's this? I need more time than one single morning. I call my sister to find out what is going on. Turns out it is a matter of money. Bah, phooey. "Unfair!" I want to scream, but I realize that getting upset will not help. I probe a bit more. How much money are we talking about?
As I listen, I begin to understand that everyone who had to deal with Mom's care is worn out, fed up, and ready to be done. I did not have time with Mom like they all did, for many reasons (the biggest being my health preventing me from handling a long and demanding trip to California). They all just want to be done with it already and move on. I get that. I decide to call the funeral home and see if I can set up a private viewing since I am the only sibling interested in more time. Yes, of course, as long as I am done before 5 pm after which they would have to pay someone overtime to be there. I can do that. I will simply leave earlier on Friday. We set a 4 o'clock appointment and I am all set.
The things a girl has to do to spend time with her Mom.
As I listen, I begin to understand that everyone who had to deal with Mom's care is worn out, fed up, and ready to be done. I did not have time with Mom like they all did, for many reasons (the biggest being my health preventing me from handling a long and demanding trip to California). They all just want to be done with it already and move on. I get that. I decide to call the funeral home and see if I can set up a private viewing since I am the only sibling interested in more time. Yes, of course, as long as I am done before 5 pm after which they would have to pay someone overtime to be there. I can do that. I will simply leave earlier on Friday. We set a 4 o'clock appointment and I am all set.
The things a girl has to do to spend time with her Mom.
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