I could just scream every time I hear a talented and beautiful young lady express her buy-in to this fallacy. Why is it that we so easily believe that Prince Charming will swoop in on his white horse and whisk us away to a castle where we will live happily ever after (translate "never have to lift a finger again, get to sit on our butts all day munching junk food and watching drivel on some screen")? Can't we get a clue that sitting around all day doing nothing and waiting for someone else to wait on our every whim is boring and detrimental to our well being? Or worse yet, the opposite where we rush around all day doing someone else's chores and keeping someone else's life in order while ours sits on a back shelf gathering dust (Cinderella still sitting in the ashes).
I have always believed that being married does not in any way mean you must become a carbon copy of the person you are married to! (Perhaps this is why I ended up divorced). So many women are completely competent and capable in their own right without having to either put down some poor guy or be put down by some guy. I have dared to mention to my women friends that I think a marriage ought to be 2 people who are completely fine and able on their own who choose to come together for companionship (as opposed to dependency). They stare at me as if I have lost my sanity. I suppose in this era we are still not as equal minded as we like to think we are.
Needless to say (climbing down off soap box), I will never give any of my grandchildren the Cinderella story in any format! But I will hope to instill in them a sense of God's intentions for humanity and for their lives, intentions filled with permission to be who you are, to indulge your creative abilities, to venture forth into the world daring to state ideas of abundance and goodness. Meanwhile, I will continue to resist the urge to strangle the Cinderella groupies.
I have always believed that being married does not in any way mean you must become a carbon copy of the person you are married to! (Perhaps this is why I ended up divorced). So many women are completely competent and capable in their own right without having to either put down some poor guy or be put down by some guy. I have dared to mention to my women friends that I think a marriage ought to be 2 people who are completely fine and able on their own who choose to come together for companionship (as opposed to dependency). They stare at me as if I have lost my sanity. I suppose in this era we are still not as equal minded as we like to think we are.
Needless to say (climbing down off soap box), I will never give any of my grandchildren the Cinderella story in any format! But I will hope to instill in them a sense of God's intentions for humanity and for their lives, intentions filled with permission to be who you are, to indulge your creative abilities, to venture forth into the world daring to state ideas of abundance and goodness. Meanwhile, I will continue to resist the urge to strangle the Cinderella groupies.
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