Raw Fear

He was frightened. He covered it nicely, but ask him how things are going, and the fear surfaces. If you acknowledge it, the tiny glint turns into a gushing river of fear. I ask. He gushes. Cancer. How could it be happening to him? He has been healthy as a horse all his life - never even been in a hospital. Now he has to have surgery. And maybe chemotherapy. He is unsettled.

I hear the "what if's" verbalized. I understand them. I have asked them. It was easier for me. I had babies. That will prepare you for nearly anything. Men are not so lucky. I assure him that his doctors perform these procedures a hundred times a week. They are experienced, skilled, will take good care of him.

"Can I ask the doctors if they will let me pray with them before the surgery?"

Of course! Most doctors are more than willing to be prayed for and with, even if they are not of your faith. They understand that it helps the patient. You should also ask your pastor to meet you there before the procedure.

"Can I do that? But it's at 6am!"

Ask. Most pastors are willing to be there for you or to send someone if they can't be there. This is your hour of need. Let people know you need support. I will be praying. I am up at 6. I will continue praying for you on and off all day. You will be on my heart. God be with you, my friend. God be with you.

I do pray for him and for his wife and pastor and doctor. I think of him on and off all day. And the next day, and the next. He sends me a text. There were complications, but things are OK. I am relieved to know he is past the hard parts. I still pray. And I send a card. I am praying for you. Take heart. Don't be afraid.

We all fight the same battles. Sometimes you just need to know there are people standing there with you, even if they can't go through it for you. I am always willing to stand with someone. Lord knows, dozens of people have stood with me. And thank God, He never leaves us or forsakes us but travels through that valley of shadows with us. God be with you, whatever your valley. God be with you.