I have been most concerned about two of my darling grand children. My son is struggling and his wife is divorcing him and neither has been focused on the kids and what they need. In fact, I know these poor children are often ignored and neglected. Both of them are behind in their development - mostly due to lack of stimulation and exposure to things like books and playing outdoors and regular schedules.
Poor babies have been bounced around from one person to another while mom and dad figure out how to manage themselves. And most recently, they were evicted from their home and although approved for housing, were not able to find a place in time. So once again the kids have everything familiar removed and are with new faces and different places.
We have often sent them clothes including coats and socks and shoes, but we never see these things again. I guess clothing is considered no good once they have been worn so they just keep not bothering to dress the children well. I know they have piles of clothes lying around but just take them places without shoes or socks or coats. I want to strangle my son. Grow up! But of course, he is unable because of his bipolarity and I have no ability to intervene. I am locked out and too far away.
The children were finally sent to us out here (mostly to #4 son and his wife) and I am delighted to see them after such a long time - almost a whole year. But they are not in a good place and scream their protests uncontrollably. It takes a long time for them to settle down and get into a routine that is beneficial for them. Still they are sweet kids and are absorbing all the love and care being offered to them.
After a short time of being with them, I am ready for them to go somewhere else. I am too old to deal with distraught children for any length of time. Four hours is about my limit. Kiel is infinitely patient with them. He is amazing. And they are making good progress. But I am afraid that they will just about get comfortable and start trusting when they will get yanked away from us.
We explore lots of possibilities. Do an intervention with the parents? Try to find some legal recourse? Certainly pray. I meet with people who are experts at this sort of thing to see what the protocol is. I am mildly surprised to hear them say that these sorts of situations are difficult and there is not much that can be done because you cannot override a parent and the parents are unable to see that they need to change or to get help. How sad.
I hear about others in this situation. Best you can do is stand by and help when you are allowed to until the children are able to get free of the situation and hopefully will not have the same issues to deal with. I continue to seek solutions. Surely there must be something we can do.
Poor babies have been bounced around from one person to another while mom and dad figure out how to manage themselves. And most recently, they were evicted from their home and although approved for housing, were not able to find a place in time. So once again the kids have everything familiar removed and are with new faces and different places.
We have often sent them clothes including coats and socks and shoes, but we never see these things again. I guess clothing is considered no good once they have been worn so they just keep not bothering to dress the children well. I know they have piles of clothes lying around but just take them places without shoes or socks or coats. I want to strangle my son. Grow up! But of course, he is unable because of his bipolarity and I have no ability to intervene. I am locked out and too far away.
The children were finally sent to us out here (mostly to #4 son and his wife) and I am delighted to see them after such a long time - almost a whole year. But they are not in a good place and scream their protests uncontrollably. It takes a long time for them to settle down and get into a routine that is beneficial for them. Still they are sweet kids and are absorbing all the love and care being offered to them.
After a short time of being with them, I am ready for them to go somewhere else. I am too old to deal with distraught children for any length of time. Four hours is about my limit. Kiel is infinitely patient with them. He is amazing. And they are making good progress. But I am afraid that they will just about get comfortable and start trusting when they will get yanked away from us.
We explore lots of possibilities. Do an intervention with the parents? Try to find some legal recourse? Certainly pray. I meet with people who are experts at this sort of thing to see what the protocol is. I am mildly surprised to hear them say that these sorts of situations are difficult and there is not much that can be done because you cannot override a parent and the parents are unable to see that they need to change or to get help. How sad.
I hear about others in this situation. Best you can do is stand by and help when you are allowed to until the children are able to get free of the situation and hopefully will not have the same issues to deal with. I continue to seek solutions. Surely there must be something we can do.
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